“It’s Not Your Fault” How to Boost Your Self Worth

You might be in denial about it, but if you often have thoughts like “I always pick the wrong guy,” or “He doesn’t appreciate everything I do,” it’s likely your self-worth needs a boost.

 

Self worth stems from self acceptance, self love, and self care. Here’s a short story that illustrates how being with the right person is one of the keys to having high self worth: 

 

Before he died, a father said to his son; “Here is a watch that your grandfather gave me. It is almost 200 years old. Before I give it to you, go to the jewelry store downtown. Tell them that I want to sell it, and see how much they offer you.”

 

The son went to the jewelry story, came back to his father, and said; “They offered $150 because it’s so old.” 

 

The father said; “Go to the pawnshop.”

 

The son went to the pawnshop, came back to his father, and said; “The pawnshop offered $10 because it looks so worn.”

 

The father asked his son to go to the museum and show them the watch.

 

He went to the museum, came back, and said to his father; “The curator offered $500,000.00 for this very rare piece to be included in their precious antique collections.”

 

The father said; “I wanted to let you know that the right place values you in the right way. Don’t find yourself in the wrong place and get angry if you are not valued. 

 

Those that know your value are those who appreciate you; don’t stay in a place where nobody sees your value. Know your worth.”

 

This story demonstrates why knowing your worth is important, and is an easy concept to comprehend, but often it’s easier said than done! After her divorce was finalized, one of our clients recalls feeling flooded with emotions of guilt, shame, relief, and despair for what her suddenly single and uncertain future would hold. 

 

As she walked out of the courtroom, she wiped her tears, and turned to her divorce lawyer saying, “Thank you.” He replied with a simple, “You’re welcome. Make sure the next guy deserves you.” It was an important lesson she would have to learn.

 

If you need help boosting your self worth, you can count on a coach to listen, empathize, and identify actionable next steps. Oftentimes you may not know what the next best thought or step to take is. Breakup and divorce coaches can help. Discover how.